“Put them in a PRESSURE COOKER. Keep the whistles going. Until they cook well and lose their firmness.” - The Patriarchy
It’s hard to reckon that the men in our society, could also be potential victims of assaults, tortures, defamations, false accusations, and wrongful convictions. Why? Because India is still a majorly patriarchal society where men hold the baton, unfortunately. It is therefore unsettling to agree that these men could be vulnerable too. The thoughts of these men being oppressed rather than being the oppressor are cliched.
Classically, women had always been under a social scanner. And that’s fundamentally wrong.
It is an exit from an arrangement that was suffocating out life from two consenting adults stuck in a dysfunctional relationship?
Within the Indian eco-system, divorce is a social stigma. Mrs. Sharma and her kitty group would get awkwardly inquisitive if the neighbor’s kid was going through a divorce. Rumors and assumptions would dart like crazy fireworks.
I wouldn’t blame Mrs. Sharma though. She has ample leisure time and nothing important to worry about. So proactive gossiping keeps her engaged and heart-healthy.
So while our millennials are gladly lapping up on the concepts of Mia Khalifa and LGBT, the greater society still finds it excruciatingly painful to watch a girl walk back into her paternal setup, from a failed marriage. …
Any adult man, married or in a relationship, displaying love and affection for his mother, above or beyond the sanctioned limits, could qualify as a “Mama’s Boy”. Well, is that confusing? I mean, look at Rahul Gandhi. In all likelihood, he isn’t in a relationship. And not married either. Yet a nation of 150 Cr population loves to call him a ‘Mama’s Boy’. But that’s a different angle.
Let me attempt at breaking it down for you.
#1 Mom, What’s The Secret Recipe? If the adult man chooses to consult his Mom on her secret cooking recipes instead of consulting the Wife/ Mother-In-Law. Especially if the wife/ Mother-In-Law also claims to be an expert (with years of profound experience) in a similar recipe. The situation quickly aggravates back in the kitchen, when we need to consciously decide between the Mother/ Mother-In-Law’s recipes. In fact, it isn’t about the food or the recipe anymore. …
Did you get a full salary this month? Thank you stars if you did. A striking majority of the global workforce has been surviving on a half or no salary. I have personally witnessed brilliant fellow-workers lose their job. Sheer bad luck and the brutality of the time, I would say. Clients running out of operational budgets projects shutting down, a suffocating rat-race to get yourself a billed role before the organization pulls the plug. I have also seen people getting salaries paid in installments. After they worked diligently for the entire month, without compromise. The last few months have a challenge for each one of us. The Covid pandemic has rattled the very foundation of how businesses operated across the world. From the local utility store to Corporate behemoths. The world is sinking into a crisis that threatens every inch of our basic livelihood, irrespective of how hard you work or plan to work. So if you are still getting a full paycheck, be thankful. If you are getting a chance to work hard, be grateful. …
The world pays keen attention and ponders over your visionary concepts only when you are “someone”. Else, you are just a neighborhood fellow trying to talk smart.
We are too busy with our daily routines and struggles. Not too many can afford to spend their leisure hours deeply reflecting on what you “preached”. Unless you need to have a high-paying job. You should have established social credibility. A celebrated author, renowned scientist, popular sportsman, business personality, or a political godfather. Essentially, you need to be “someone”. Creativity has no credibility unless it draws you hefty profits. Right from ‘Day 1’.
“Perfection is no small thing, but it is made up of small things.” …