Any adult man, married or in a relationship, displaying love and affection for his mother, above or beyond the sanctioned limits, could qualify as a “Mama’s Boy”. Well, is that confusing? I mean, look at Rahul Gandhi. In all likelihood, he isn’t in a relationship. And not married either. Yet a nation of 150 Cr population loves to call him a ‘Mama’s Boy’. But that’s a different angle.
Let me attempt at breaking it down for you.
#1 Mom, What’s The Secret Recipe? If the adult man chooses to consult his Mom on her secret cooking recipes instead of consulting the Wife/ Mother-In-Law. Especially if the wife/ Mother-In-Law also claims to be an expert (with years of profound experience) in a similar recipe. The situation quickly aggravates back in the kitchen, when we need to consciously decide between the Mother/ Mother-In-Law’s recipes. In fact, it isn’t about the food or the recipe anymore. It’s about the right choice.
#2 If the man shares cute social media Memes such as “My Mother is the Best” / “Mothers are the Best Friend” / “Missing You Mother” without any specific reason or occasion. On a hypothetical plane, ladies have the warrant to repeatedly express their love for their Mom through verbal and social media. However, we seldom see Men doing the same.
#3 If the adult and the busy man decides to chit-chat with the mother more than twice on the same day for an excess of 30 minutes. I mean, what possibly can you talk about for a whole 30 minutes, especially with the mother. While the female-female interactions usually span across a crazy multitude of topics ranging from Elon Musk, SpaceX to the neighbor's cute dog, a son’s interaction with a mother usually has a precise boundary that exhausts in 10–15 minutes.
It could be wandering around Health, Medicines, Food, trouble-shooting technical problems with the washing machine/ refrigerator, Skype making weird noises, and how to permanently get rid of that neighbor's cute dog.
#4 If an adult man decides to follow the directions laid out by your mother, especially when you should be capable of taking your own independent decisions. That explains Rahul Gandhi. He walked into politics probably because his mother (and family) represented a political family.
#5 And the most heinous of all, weighing the scales of justice, if an adult man decides to marginally align with the mother instead of the wife. In the daily 1001+ difference of opinion between the wife and mother. Many such differences might arise in a context totally unknown to you. The diplomatic skills with which one handles such sensitive situations without infuriating any of the parties requires years of practice and discipline.
#6Here’s Your Homework for the Day: With all the immense insights and spiritual enlightenment you have gained so far through this post, please answer the very simple question that follows — Do you feel, our Indian Bahubali qualifies as a Mama’s Boy too?
Originally published at http://wordskraft.com on September 16, 2020.